Nov 3, 2017
World-renowned business educator and coach, Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, gives priceless tips for today’s female entrepreneur. Today on the EO Podcast, Dr. Goldsmith discusses the difference between men and women in leadership, and teaches women how to finally be happy and free ourselves from guilt. Tune-in to listen to Dr. Goldsmith as he walks through an exercise in letting go, inspired by Buddhist philosophy and his experiences with women around the world. Marshall also discusses what advice the elderly would give their younger selves and inspires us to take their advice NOW.
Time Stamped Show Notes:
- 00:55 – Tips for Women Entrepreneurs
- 01:00 – Working on new book with Sally Helgesen about women in leadership
- 01:15 – Very similar to tips for men like; asking for input, knowing what to improve, follow-up, measuring improvement
- 01:30 – Differences: Average woman gets better 360 degree feedback than average man, average woman scores higher
- 01:45 – Women are too hard on themselves and are more hesitant to promote themselves, perhaps because of historical familial expectations on women
- 02:45 – Marshall does a class for women
- 02:53 – 4 rules: you cannot attempt to learn something, be more productive, be a better person, or try and help others
- 03:50 – One rule: Focus only on your own happiness and self-acceptance
- 03:55 – Did this exercise and women were breaking down in the course, it isn’t easy for women
- 04:10 – Men, on the other hand, don’t tend to have an issue focusing on their happiness
- 04:40 – How to be happy and let go of guilt: Exercise
- 04:45 – Buddhist philosophy – a “new me” with every new breath
- 05:05 – Think of the “previous yous” and everything those previous women (the past versions of yourself) have done
- 05:35 – What would you say to those previous women about all the nice things they’ve done, accomplished, etc? Thank you. Thank your “previous yous” and breath
- 05:50 – The first person you need to forgive is yourself; women want others to be happy, but you should be put first
- 06:40 – Ask yourself who is being punished and who is punished when you feel bad or guilty over others (you are punished you are punishing)
- 07:19 – Monk story: Monk carries woman across stream and other monk is upset that he broke the rule (can’t touch women)
- 08:00 – 1st monk says “shit happens” and moves on while the other is still upset
- 08:25 – Monk says, “I only carried her across a stream, I didn’t carry her back to the monastery”
- 8:35 – We carry people around with us through guilt and we need to leave them at the stream
- 09:00 – Pick a path through life: any path will have trade-offs; make peace with them
- 09:20 – Farmer in boat story: Don’t get upset at others for being who they are
- 10:20 – Breathe and imagine being able to give your younger self advice on your deathbed. What would that advice be?
- 11:00 – Friends interviewed elderly on what their advice to their younger selves would be
- 11:13 – Be happy now, friends and family first, if you have a dream, go for it, life is short so have fun
- 11:47 – Help people, go for it, don’t be too hard on yourself
- 12:20 – Old people don’t regret the risk they failed, they regret the risk they failed to take
3 Key Points:
- Women tend to be too hard on themselves – Learn to let go of guilt and be happy.
- Pick a path and make peace with any trade-offs. Every path has trade-offs.
- Breathe and take the advice from your older self-Go for it!
Resources Mentioned:
- Entrepreneur's Organization – The EO Network
- Marshall Goldsmith’s website
Credits:
Show Notes provided by Melissa Valder